Song of the Day: Andy Gullahorn


In light of Russ’s post about his 13 years of marriage, I submit to you “Give it Time,” one of the finest songs about marriage you’ll ever hear.

Andrew Peterson is a singer-songwriter and author. Andrew has released more than ten records over the past twenty years, earning him a reputation for songs that connect with his listeners in ways equally powerful, poetic, and intimate. As an author, Andrew’s books include the four volumes of the award-winning Wingfeather Saga, released in collectible hardcover editions through Random House in 2020, and his creative memoir, Adorning the Dark, released in 2019 through B&H Publishing.


  1. Bret Welstead

    I think Andy sang this song in Elkhorn, NE this year on BTLOG. I love how his voice soars through the melody of the chorus: “You have to wait through the winter cold for the spring sunshine.”

    Great song, great truth about marriage.

  2. Tony Heringer

    Another “goodern” Barliman. Pat Conroy, no stranger to divorce, said that “divorce is the death of a civilization.”

    I love the line: “When we lay the weapons down, we find we’re closer than before.” Cherie and I have had more than one of our own “little civil wars” (great description of marital discord) and I have to say we ultimately come back to the fact that our union is certainly “worth committing to.”

    It is certainly sad when you see your friends falling in the battle. May this song be an encouragement to those who feel the battle is not worth fighting anymore. It most certainly is worth it and I pray anyone considering quiting will truly ponder Andy’s exhortation here.

  3. Tom Bubb

    I heard this song for the first time on the BTLOG tour and it absolutely floored me. The sheer truth and beauty of this song made me a Gullahorn fan for life. I plan to get married in the not too distant future and I’m doing my best to take this song’s lessons with me going in. Thanks for posting it AP!

  4. Jeff Cope

    I can’t listen to this right now. I’m too mad at Gullahorn.

    Why? Back in May he blogged about french fries and declared Checkers fries to be his favorite. Well, we don’t have Checkers, but we have Rally’s which is pretty much the same thing. I went there once when I first moved to OH from CA back in late ’99. Hadn’t been back since.

    His post made me want to try them again, and DANG…now I’m hooked on their fries! Curses!

    But, I still think Chick-fil-A’s fries are superior, but there’s not a location close to my store.

    Oh, yeah….great song from a great CD, Andy!


  5. Ron Block


    Loved the song – beautiful singing and playing as well.

    Marriage: commitment to Christ. Commitment to growth. Commitment to one another. People who divorce when marital times get hard, rather than looking clearly at “What can I do to make this a better union?” usually take the easier – and harder – way out. If both people have a “til death do us part” mentality, there’s a way through every obstacle.

    Taking the eternal view, in the life of a Christian marriage, is the way to marital health. “What will matter when we stand before Jesus Christ and look into His eyes? What will be wood, hay, stubble? What will be gold, silver, precious stones?” That’s the deal. Building the works of Christ (His works through us) upon the foundation that has been laid (Christ in us) in our marriages is crucial to our eternal well-being. The husband gives himself (because Christ is in him, giving Himself); he sees Christ in his wife (“as you have done it to the least of these, you’ve done it unto Me.” The wife respects and submits (a much misused word!) to her husband, because she recognizes Christ in him (and in herself) as her real Husband.

    It’s the satanic view that is competitive, self-righteous, and polarizing (I remember a few years ago during an argument my wife said, “Honey, can I speak with Christ in you?”). Whenever our inner thought-stream is going negative on our spouse, and I mean in a self-righteous, polarizing way, we can be sure that there is a Screwtape-ish tempter close at hand feeding us “I” messages. “I hate when she….” “I can’t stand it when he…” “Unbelievable. She did it again!”

    Usually these satanic thought-streams feed on the basic differences between male and female. Oversimplifying, a man desires respect, honor (I don’t mean in an ego way). A woman desires love from her husband (which includes courtesy and respect in how he treats her). They overlap, but with different emphasis. The satanic line will often be to get the husband feeling disrespected and the wife feeling unloved. The Screwtape Letters contain some good info on the seeds of marital troubles.

  6. Adam Bennett

    Thanks Ron. I think you polished a song and post I didn’t think could get any better.

  7. Peter B

    Seriously. Now I need to go dig up my copy of Screwtape again.

    Also, Ron, thanks for the encouragement on the other post. Sometimes a gentle nudge in the right direction from an older brother is all it takes to set things in motion. Christ willing, he will be evident in me.

  8. Lori

    I just now ran across this post and song here. Again, God’s timing is impeccable. I needed to hear this song and read the encouragement from all of you on this post. My husband and I are going through a rough spell. We have been married three months and are having a hard time adjusting to living under the same roof and ridding ourselves of the selfishness that plagued our lives for years as single people. Just last night I’d laid in bed and thought, “I don’t think I can do this.” So, the song, and all of your posts, especially Ron’s, give me hope and renewed commitment. Thank you so much.

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