Dating Yourself and Making Birdhouses

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I have been a contributor here for a very little while now and I notice that some of these other blokes ask questions and then some very clever people answer them in the comments and elaborate upon their thoughts and it’s a kind of thing like what bespectacled scientists in lab coats call “interaction,” or “communication,” or “the brotherhood of man.” So here’s my question: If you were single, and you weren’t you, would you date yourself?

OK, that’s not my real question, but it’s something worth considering in light of the fact that you probably want someone special to date you. Or court you. Or take you on a date to court. Date yourself? It’s the kind of question that might puzzle a person, but later they would understand. I read once where Rich Mullins said that if he wasn’t Rich Mullins he would be a Rich Mullins fan. Perhaps that is a good question for artists and thoughtful singles to consider. Also, there’s those on-line dating services which, if the commercials are true, are excellent places for male models and female models to get together for a lasting love where you never have to say “I’m sorry,” or “I’m not good-looking.”

Personally I hope the Rabbit Room spins off into an on-line dating service focused on 3 dimensions of compatibility:

1. Are you OK with being discipled by Ron Block?

2. There are two kinds of people in this world, people who love Eric Peters’ music, and people who haven’t listened to it long enough yet. Which are you?

 apkiller.jpg3. Is Andrew Peterson a father-figure, a brother-figure, or an action-figure kind of influence in your life? By the way, have you seen Andrew’s new book? It’s the first in The Chronicles of the Kill” Saga Trilogy. The second book is called Second to Kill and third is called, uh, um…I can’t remember. Third…something. But it’s going to be so amazing. Check the Rabbit Room Store now. If it’s not there, buy something else.

But I digress (who else hates it when people say “But I digress?” When is it ever OK to say that?). My real question is this:

Tell us one thing that you do (or wish you did) to foster creativity in your life?

Example: Everyday I take a walk and soak in the inspiration of creation. Then I build birdhouses. Or: Everyday I talk to my soulmate whom I met on Rabbit Room Singles dot com. Then I tip my head backwards and laugh enthusiastically while a voice-over sells a product.

Fill us in. Or, in keeping with AP’s astute perspective on Art as light in darkness, enlighten us. Help us ordinary people uncover the beauty ready to break over the surface of the still lake of our lives.


43 Comments

  1. Mary Eady

    well, i’m not a thoughtful single, which is not to say i’m not thoughtful. it’s just to say i’m married. but then i got to thinking, “would i want to be married to me if i weren’t me and me was an option?” and boy…THAT one’ll really make you think. and i think i’m not thoughtful enough in my marriage, which makes me think i have a lot of thinking to do. and perhaps a lot of doing to do, too. did that all make sense?

  2. rachel

    i’ve started keeping a journal in my bag/purse/car/coat, and whenever i encounter something inspiring, whether a piece of art, a story from a friend, a long-lost memory triggered by a moment, or even just a really good quote or piece of scripture, i jot it down. that’s my little book of unprocessed inspiration, and when i have a moment to write/sing/paint/create, it’s from there that i draw. it’s waaaay better than a regular journal, too 🙂

    as for the RR singles, hey, let’s just be honest and say that all of us here CLEARLY have the most sublime taste in music and literature. what better place to start? (see also: why i’d TOTALLY want to date me…)

  3. PaulH

    Here are some, but not limitd too, inspirations of mine to draw and paint: music, sunsets, flowers, Spring/Fall/Winter (not summer though, weird) the ocean, God and His Word, my kids, my wife, depression, elation, other artists, books.

  4. Pete Peterson

    @pete

    Creatively, being alone is the worst thing for me. I need to have other people around to see or know what I’m doing in order to keep me from falling completely off the map. Of course that problem is compounded by being single, living alone, and not really liking social gatherings. So Starbucks and a place called Sam and Zoe’s are my answers: places I feel comfortable hanging out with people around. I don’t want anyone to think I’m just sitting there surfing the web like a geek so I have no trouble digging in and getting some serious writing done.

    Weird, I know.

    Oh, and I’d totally date myself.

  5. Jonathan Rogers

    When it comes to getting productive, reading is definitely an important part of the mix for me. I find that the best reading for this purpose is a really dull book or article about a really fascinating subject. For instance, last week I skimmed through a very dry, academic monograph about the stealing of saints’ bones in medieval Europe. I got my head full of great stories and great ideas, but I wasn’t tempted to spend hours and hours reading (the book was just too boring).

    Being creatively productive is largely a matter of getting out of consumer mode and into producer mode. There are plenty of times when I call myself “reading for inspiration” when really I’m just being a consumer (and, more to the point, a procrastinator). Obviously we’re all consumers of art (as we should be)–and the art we consume gets digested and becomes part of the art we produce, but it’s helpful to me to set aside time for consumption and not let myself consume when I’m supposed to be producing.

    Another thing: I’ve taken up linoleum block printing, and I find that creativity of one kind engenders creativity of other kinds. Also, mindless work like blowing leaves or mowing grass helps me get moving creatively.

  6. Chris Slaten

    Dazing out in the shower. Driving in silence, especially if it is a long trip.

    As terribly prideful as it is I think I might add going to mediocre concerts to the list too. It gives me that haughty feeling of “I could do that!” Needless to say that is toxic fuel and not a winning recipe for selfless art, but I won’t deny that I have relied on that before.

    Also, I’ll second a few things that others said: I am like Pete in Starbucks. I need to be around a lot of people. Sometimes I think that being in a bigger city might help that. Like Jonathan mindless work and reading dull writing about interesting subjects both help a lot (I can usually get the reading from arts and letters daily http://www.aldaily.com ). Like Rachel, I’ve got a little journal that I carry around to collect fragments of inspiration.

    Jonathan, thanks for pointing out the difference between producer and consumer modes. I think I have been stuck in consumer mode for about four years. I keep thinking that the more inspiration I shove in the greater the chances of something spilling out. Instead, I’m just kind of turning into an elitist and the food in the oven is burning.

  7. Ron Block

    @ronblock

    S.D.

    Hilarious.

    I like long walks on the beach and candlelight dinners and saying whatever else I need to say to get a compatible partner on an online dating service.

    Creativity. Sheesh. For me, the first thing that has to be kicked out is fear. That’s what’s kept me from writing more songs than I have – it’s what Steven Pressfield calls Resistance. My psyche has been reprogrammed a lot in that area in the past two years. It’s important to take a faith attitude; “whom the Lord calls, He enables.” It’s easier to write articles (plus I’m not so much of a writer that I am immediately aware when I’m writing badly, unlike playing music).

    But books – I love books, immersing myself in story. George MacDonald, Tolkien, Lewis, E. Nesbit, science-fiction, fantasy, history. The Bible of course is an incredibly endless fountain of creative inspiration.

    Also this past Fall I’ve gotten into playing banjo on my porch, or wandering out in the yard among the trees, feeling the breeze, the sun, hearing the birds, seeing the dog laying there like she’s dead (she’s really old, and I actually wondered a couple times and then noticed she was breathing just barely). Playing outside like that feels like I’m immersing myself in God’s story, and I get to provide the soundtrack. When Spring comes I’ll be doing that a lot.

    A clean environment inside is crucial for me. I’ve got to have a decently picked up studio in order to write; otherwise I feel the pressure of all those undone tasks (I am a type A, after all. I married a type V at least, if not X or Y. Maybe even Z. I’m so type A that if I ever dated myself I’d kill me).

  8. Leigh McLeroy

    I carry 2 Moleskine notebooks – one unlined journal size, and one lined small, that I “catch” ideas in. Could be a phrase or a quote from another author, or a line from a song, etc. Anything I see in the course of the day is possible fodder for inspiration. But I don’t think I’d date me, because I think dating is mostly dreadful. I would befriend me (not the same as “friending”) however, and I’m pretty sure I’d marry me. (After all, Jesus did.)

  9. Jodi

    I try to protect an hour in the afternoons right after lunch for what my kids know as “rest time.” That’s the time when the youngest one stays in his room with a stack of books or puzzles and the older two work on schoolwork (we homeschool) or personal creative pursuits. No one talks to Mom (unless blood is involved) and Mom gets to read or journal or answer email or read blogs or take a nap or any combination of the above.

    I also spend a lot of time with teenagers. For some reason they have a way of revving up my creativity. I love ’em.

  10. Aaron Roughton

    I drink coffee, read, and drop acid. The acid helps ALOT. And I am positive that while on acid I have dated myself. So the answer to that question is yes.

    I’ve noticed that a task or a creative assignment with a deadline and a purpose goes along way in motivating creativity. Write a song about this, or a video about that. We need it by Friday. I guess it’s the engineer in me that likes task oriented creativity.

  11. kevin

    I’m a carpenter, I don’t have to be creative. I just cut it and nail it, and if it doesn’t fit, I hit it with a hammer. Sometimes I hit my hand, then I get real creative.

    Seriously, though, I need communication. It’s about 1000 times easier to develop thoughts when in conversation with someone else. I find it difficult to organize my mind when it’s just me. I’m sure there’s some medication out there that would help with that, maybe that acid stuff might help?

    But to answer another question: it would make for a bad date if two of me could never concentrate their thoughts, so no, I would not date myself. I’m also entirely too hairy. Quite a turnoff…

    This post is just the kind of thought provoking gibberish that I find so appealing here on the RR. Keep it up, guys (and gals).

  12. Jennifer

    How thought provoking…
    By the way, I love Ron’s idea..”Playing outside like that feels like I’m immersing myself in God’s story, and I get to provide the soundtrack.”
    This could pertain to so many things besides music…
    Hearing the kids laugh, run, play..seeing them use their imaginations in wonderful ways…hearing nature be the soundtrack (rain, wind blowing, leaves rustling…etc).

    As far as creativity….I have to be alone..set all my other thoughts aside (like Ron said..I have to have all the clutter gone or I’m finding myself cleaning up, etc)…and when I’m alone to foster creativity, I used to make a list, to prioratize WHAT I was thinking of/working on…but now I find that I first pray. Sounds simple, and it is, but in order for me to be creative/productive, I find if I put HIM first, I’m WAY more productive/creative and things flow way easier.

    Back to the kids…watching them be so innocent using their imaginations, playing, carefree..shows us all how CREATIVITY should flow..w/no boundaries, no walls…being able to throw all the cares of our life aside……

  13. Jennifer

    Jodi…I wanted to comment..that’s what we do in our house too.. I find it TOTALLY necessary for all of us (my two kids and myself) to REFRESH.

  14. Jeanne

    Truth be told, I just read everyone’s comments to steal, -er, stimulate creativity for my own comment. So if my cleverness sounds vaguely familiar, don’t read too closely between the lines… (yes, that is an admission that many times my creativity is a product of absorbing the creativity of others and perhaps adding a few personal modifications, but in general, I seem to rely strongly upon plagerism.)

    However, there are times when my brain circles endlessly round and round an idea, a thought until years later it begins to shape into something very real and personal and I realize “if I don’t do this, no one will!…and it NEEDS to be seen, heard or done!!” Right now, I’m actually thinking of writing children’s books about some very perplexing hidden truths of Scripture (such as in finding your life you lose it, but in losing your life you find it — how long it’s taken me to really understand that!!)…and perhaps finding a simple, fun way to talk about truths that we are drowning in and yet can’t seem to grasp the power that it has to save us.

    I also love to write for creativity. My mom used to do an activity with us when we were kids and she would sit us all down with paper and pen and tell us to write whatever we wanted, anything we could think of for 10 minutes…and then we would read it aloud to each other. I don’t know about my sisters, but I always loved it and found it fascinating to hear what other people were thinking inside their head. (which is one of the reasons I greatly admire S.D. Smith)

    So it seems that is exactly what I have done here…because now this comment is no longer a comment, but an article…and that is precisely why I wouldn’t date myself…I’m too busy thinking and talking to listen to me.

  15. S. D. Smith

    @sdsmith

    I found my soulmate on RR Singles dot com! And it’s me, me, me, me!

    Thanks for the comments so far, very helpful and funny stuff. Except for the advice to use drugs.

    (sing it) Mary- Did you know….that your comment was…really complex, but I got it…did you know, that your comment was, the first and it was interesting…Did you know…?

    Rachel- I laughed at what you wrote. In a good way. The funny part. The first part about the notebooks, I didn’t laugh at. That’s a great idea, and I sort of do the same thing, but without the purse. A book of unprocessed inspiration. I use mine (sometimes) to write down things I think are funny. Later I read them and I laugh. And hug myself.

    PaulH- I wish I could paint. My kids inspire me too. When I lived in Africa, my best pal was named Paul H. That is not a lie. He was from Wales.

    Petras- You are a rock, and upon this rock I will build my barns to store my stuff. I can totally relate to your view of isolation as a natural disaster. I also need people to interact with, and really wish I had more of that in real life (as it relates to the arts). But I share your aversion as well. Maybe we should get together and not talk. Of course, the church is the community that believers need, and that is something God has provided and I love the communion of saints. Also I love the forgiveness of sins. And football. Not the same way.

    JR- Who shot JR? I hope no one. That was a big deal sometime in the 80’s with the show “Dallas.” Once, my pastor when I was a little kid was all excited preaching against worldliness (he was probably right) and he said “Everyone is so worried about who shot Jr.” He just saw the bumper stickers and didn’t know it was J.R., not Jr. Anyway, that was from Dallas, right? All the people younger than thirty are puzzled right now. Anyway, Jonathon Rogers, thank you for your astute comments. I really think you’re on to something with the idea of doing something else creative to inspire you in your primary creative endeavors. Watching Dallas does NOT count. That principle works in sports pretty well, playing other sports makes you a better player in whatever you’re focusing on. Many NFL players do ballet. Or so I heard. Probably from the Dallas Cowboys.

    Chris- I am with you on the long drives. Not in person, I mean I agree with what you said. That would be weird.

    Ron Block- Glad you didn’t hit me over the head with your banjo for my reference to your discipleship (which I love). Also, your comment made me laugh in a continence-threatening kind of way. I love the soundtrack to God’s story idea, awesome. That almost transcends sub-creation. Also, love your music, brother. “I’m not holding on to Jesus…” Excellente.

    Leigh- I think I agree about the mostly dreadful nature of dating. But have you consider the dangers of moleskin? Just think about it. It’s mole’s. Skin. Yuck? You decide.

    Aaron R- Pardon me sir, I think you dropped your acid. Here you go. I don’t like deadlines, but have to admit that they are useful at times. Don’t tell anyone who is in charge of me this.

    Kevin- Yeah, carpenters aren’t creative. Speaking of which. My old boss was named Massie, but her name changed to Carpenter when she got married to Josh Carpenter. Then I told people “My boss is a new-ish Carpenter.” I got some sympathy laughs. I’m with you on communication. It helps so much. Even talking over an idea for a spot in a story with someone, even if they don’t give me “the solution,” I find it helped so much just to “air it out.” I do this a lot with my wife, my brothers, a few friends. It is so helpful. Also, you are cool.

    Jennifer- I agree about watching the kids play. Their creativity is boundless. Not your kids. I watch my own kids. Before I was a married man with legitimate issues, I was visiting my brother (who already was married with legitimate issues himself). I was holding my young niece and did the whole “Don’t you want to come home with Uncle Sam?” routine (yes, I’m Uncle Sam). She looked up at me and smiled. “No. You have to dit your own tids.” Eventually, I followed her advice.

  16. josh

    One thing I do to foster creativity in song writing is I go find a song by somebody else that I really like. Then I learn to play that song. Then once i’m proficient at playing it I change all the words. Once I have the words changed I then change the melody and chord progression. then when the words and melody and progression are totally unrecognizable the last step is to change the title. And BAM! Newly created song!

  17. Jeannine

    i like to sit/stand/ kartwheel/ jog and DREAM! Dreaming that I’m better than I really am, and do things that I want to do, and plan things I’ll maybe never get to do, or see things how they really may not be- mostly I like to drive or walk into some kind of outdoor creative specacle to do this, but today I found myself dreaming right in the middle of the snow packed city. I also like to write things that are other- godly -knowing that God would laugh, or if not laugh, maybe smirk a little. Like today, making note of the very finite way that God knows me. I illustrated this with the example of the little fairies He used to knit me together in my momma’s belly (using very tiny needles, of course)
    Also, before reading this (admitting that I have led a wonderfully single life, so far) I thought how cool it would be to meet someone on this site cause you all seem so very creative and passionate. (That reads alot lamer than I wanted it to, but I’m one for a scarce amount of editing.)

  18. Jeannine

    it’s me again, cause I forgot to answer the date question… I don’t think I’d date me- I lie too much. (I just realized how scaringly honest that is, who wants to hear that?!)

  19. Chris Slaten

    Josh,
    Your songwriting exercise reminds me of Invasion of the Body Snatchers (More like the one with Donald Sutherland and Leanord Nemoy than the original). I’ll have to try that sometime. Thanks.

  20. Mary Eady

    jeannine — i totally got you after your first post and now i admire your courage, too! that IS scary! isn’t it weird, lying? this weird, strange impulse that hits — and a lot of times over stuff that doesn’t matter a single wit!! i heard matt chandler preach about this a bit in one of his sermons on Luke and man was it good. and convicting! it’s so easy to tread that silly line of “white lies” — it is or it isnt and that’s it. and honestly? i’d imagine some folk would find it really, really refreshing to have you openly admit something like that. because we’ve ALL got ’em, those embarrassing marks on our records. some just hide them better than others.

    my dad said to my brother before he got married, “son, marriage is the Great Illuminator.” and my bro said, “but what if i don’t WANT to be illuminated?” prophetic, that. it illuminates. and i think the more honest you are about who you are up front, perhaps the easier a process it’ll be on the back end.

    sorry — i’ve gotten off topic. but i was also inspired. 🙂

  21. kevin

    To continue off topic:

    I used to think marriage was the greatest tool for sanctification in the Christian life, until I had kids. Some may disagree, and that’s fine. They just must not have a tiny-long-haired, scale model of themselves at home like I do. I really think my oldest is a genetic anomaly- I don’t think my wife actually gave any genetic material.

    I almost gasp sometimes when she does stuff. There really are sins in my life I never would have known about if it weren’t for her.

    It’s truly illuminating to see your little ones have weeds sprout in the same place as you. Especially when you didn’t see them as weeds before…

    And let’s not worry about getting off topic, especially when the topic is dating yourself. No offense, Mr D.

  22. josh

    I don’t know if i’d recommend my method Chris… Most of the songs that come out of that kind of thing are utterly ridiculous. I was watching Lost one night and wrote a song during a commercial break called “One Eyed Mullet man”. It was probably the dumbest 3 minutes in human history. But it was a lot of fun.

  23. Andrew Mackay

    Creativity is a tough thing to channel. I’m finding some quiet in the morning to be a little helpful. I feel like I should take a page out of someone’s notebook and actually start carrying a notebook for times that I have kernels of thought. Or corn.

    And no, I would not date myself… I’d find someone more exciting. Or at least coherent.

  24. Melinda

    I just need to ask a question that doesn’t answer the question.

    Has anyone here listened much to The Wailin’ Jenny’s? I heard their song “Heaven When We’re Home” today while typing away on a grad school application at a coffee shop, and it was terribly beautiful. I think I’m a new fan.

    Am I late to discover these gals, or has anyone else heard of ’em?

  25. dave herring

    i observe things in my life that are common and taken for granted. i try to take joy in the little things, and in the unseen things. i use my limited creativity to try and explain these things to others through my music and writing. its those things that keep my brain constantly working.

  26. josh

    I would totally date me. I say this because I know me better than anybody and I would know exactly what I meant no matter what I said. There would be no need to wonder if i was joking or being serious or lying or any of that. Plus i’m rich and i’m dead sexy…

  27. Stacy Grubb

    I’ve heard of the Wailin’ Jenny’s, Melinda, and I LOVE them. You may also like Crooked Still if you’re a fan of those girls.

    At first, I thought that I would NOT date me. I’m aware that I require much more reassurance than the average bear and I’ve long pitied my husband on that account. Then I remembered that I also really love to take care of people and tell them how wonderful and special they are to me and decided that I would be a perfect fit for me.

    I get the majority of my inspiration from listening to other people’s music. If a song has a vibe that I really enjoy, then I feel compelled to write a song that has that vibe, too. Many of my songs have really bizarre storylines and people want to know how I come up with them. The truth is, I usually develop the story trying to find rhyming words. If I need to rhyme “Sun,” maybe I’ll figure out how “Gun” can fit in there somewhere. If I was told to write a short story, I would never be able to come up with this stuff. That’s just what inspires me to write, though. If I’m outside on a beautiful day, writing is often the last thing on my mind because I really just want to soak in the moment. The environment inspires a lot of introspection, though, and makes me notice things I often take for granted. Like Ron, I enjoy pickin’ outside, but since I suck at it, I don’t. It would be nice to be Ron’s neighbor and hear some of his tunes wafting over to my porch.

    Stacy

  28. Stacy Grubb

    By the way, if two people met on a Rabbit Room dating service, would they be destined to have lots of children at lightening speed or is that a stretch? Okay, I’m done adding afterthoughts.

  29. kevin

    I saw the Wailin’ Jennies one time. They rock. Well, they actually sang an a capella piece, and it was at a Prairie Home Companion down at the cape o’ Massachusetts. Anyway, it was good.

  30. Niner (formerly Jeannine) because small children would rather call me this.

    Mary… thank you… i think. Greater things are still yet to come. and by the way.. in response to the original message, I’d only be willing to be D:d by Ron if he included giving away some trade music secrets in exchange for the health of my soul.

  31. Mary Eady

    this whole thread keeps cracking me up. i can’t help it.

    and jean–er, Niner. it was intended well, so i’m glad you took it that way if you did. 🙂

    who shot JR…boy…i was in Romania in high school for a few weeks and that whole place just SHUT DOWN for Dallas. businesses would close, students and teachers would cluster in hallways to look into rooms if they had TVs — no joke. it was a crazy phenomenon in the mid-90’s out the Craiova way.

    so here’s a thought about the whole “would we date us or not” response pool. we’ve mostly said no. there was one reconsidered yes. and then josh who, being a rich and dead sexy self-understander is a clear shoe-in for self dating success…but here is my question — did all of you use your standards for who you normally would date when judging yourselves? i just stopped to really ponder that. because love really DOES cover a multitude of sins.

    here’s where i’m going with this — my husband really does know me extremely well (we should hope, right??). and i go to him about stuff fairly often because, guy — i think i’m pretty hard to live with. i’m touchy, i’m type A, i’ve had to face so clearly my faults in my marriage (and oh yes, kids adds a whole new layer) but here’s what i encounter so often when i apologize to my husband: not only forgiveness, but also a view of me that is so much kinder than what I have in my own head. he gives me grace AND he views me through the filter of his love for me which seems to soften those edges and fill in some of the cracks.

    so…when considering ourselves as dating material/marriage material (since I started it haha), do we consider using the same set of rules/standards we’d use to consider anyone else? i don’t mean should we. i mean DID we? i am totally curious.

  32. Micah

    This thread has kept me great company while alone & impatiently reasoning with a printer in the office today.

    All that to say, from my skimming, it seems that most people here would date themselves. On the one hand, I have amazing taste in music, books, and movies. This is a big plus as having to talk people into going to concerts for people they haven’t heard can grow tiresome.

    However, after a good 45 seconds of consideration, I’ve decided I could not date myself, mostly because I am very easily amused & laugh really loudly. (I once ended someone’s nap prematurely by laughing while eating lunch outside, he was on the fifth floor, windows closed) Based on the fact that I love to make other people laugh, I think I couldn’t date myself, because it’s just too easy to make me laugh. I’d prefer at least a slight challenge.

  33. Micah

    As I forgot to include this is my last post here you go, this video was made by a friend of mine & probably loosely fit with some talk he gave his youth group, but is mostly just funny. The best commercial for a fake dating website ever.

  34. Niner (formerly Jeannine) because small children would rather call me this.

    Micah…it’s not COULD you date yerself… it’s WOULD you date yerself!? So, would you?

  35. josiah

    I totally wouldn’t date myself. I think I fall way short of my standards!! It’s so funny how easy it is for me to be critical of myself… and others for that matter. I married someone so much more amazing than myself, so dating myself would be such a let down.

    Great post SD. So… how long do you have to contribute before the proprietor sticks your face on the sidebar? Not that we want to see how hot you are or anything. Scary.

  36. Pazzo

    I actually did date myself. We met through a mutual friend It worked out for awhile, but then myself broke up with me. I played the ol’ “its not me, its me” card. It was really awkward.

  37. becky

    I definitely couldn’t date myself. I’m too self-centered for me. This is, in my opinion, one of the biggest drawbacks of being single. It is way too easy to become caught up in myself. Selflessness, from what I have read in the Bible, is a big part of the definition of love. Maybe the biggest part. And if you are a mother, selflessness begins at conception. Who would choose to be sick every morning for three months (or in my mother’s case, for nine months)? Or gain a belly that looks like a basketball is inside? Or have stretch marks for the rest of your life? Only love would make someone choose this.

    For me, creativity takes a balance of time alone, and time bouncing ideas off of other people. I can’t hold a conversation while I’m trying to write, or design, or paint something. It takes my full concentration. I don’t think I could do those things in Starbucks. There are too many distractions. I also need deadlines, ’cause I’m the queen of procrastination. I need a structured time environment or nothing will get done.

  38. Marilyn Meier

    I’m dating me right now. We’re both just so intense. I just don’t know. I’ll keep you posted.

    …It all starts with a crush. That fluttery butterfly feeling where your own wonderfulness winds its way around your heart or your funny bone or both and you’re taken completely by surprise. Who ARE you???? to that ever so slightly charming girl in the mirror. And why are you suddenly so interesting??! Well, my name’s Marilyn. Nice to meet you. So’s mine.

    This is devastating glory. To flirt, for even a moment, with the idea of enjoying– savoring– the one person I am quickest to dismiss and abuse. We sin most cruelly and deeply against ourselves, I think. We are with ourselves all the time, hounding ourselves the way only we can. So, to dabble with enjoying yourself, with stealing one awakened glance at the face in the mirror, with seeking out your own company- offering the one person you feel least comfortable with… a tender, extended heart…. this is glory. It’s also downright war. But that’s a story for another time.

  39. Marilyn Meier

    By the way, I’m so glad I just found the Rabbit Room. SO very glad! Welcome to me, and hello you all!

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