Time Flies (by Julie Silander)


[Hello, Rabbit Room. This is S.D. Smith, international human being, presenting you with another post from your allies at Story Warren. Most of you know Julie Silander, she of RR Book Club fame, she of Hutchmoot fame, she of seemingly innumerable encouragements spreading secretly all over this community…um, fame. Julie has been a queen-city-sized dose of encouragement and wisdom to my family, so many of my friends, and an indispensable contributor to Story Warren. She also writes pretty well, for a dancer. –Sam]


Let me tell you about my two-year-old. He loves life. He wakes early in the morning, eager for the adventures of the day. He is inquisitive about the way things work. He transforms long-forgotten remnants of this and that into tools, and he builds wood-block cities where the good guys decimate the bad guys on an hourly basis. He has a kind, generous heart and notices everything extraordinary that adults religiously dismiss. He has a sense of wonder and whimsy for which I yearn. He exudes the very essence of life.

I love my two-year-old. But the thing is, he just turned thirteen. It happened when I blinked. As my eyes refocus on this newer version of my boy, I’m acutely aware that so much has changed. He has almost matched me in height.  He is the one recommending books to me, and I learn as much from our conversations (or more) than does he.  My son is closer to a man than a boy, and the rate of change is just getting kicked into high gear.

Yet when I consider the best part of that two-year-old, the truest, most human, most alive part of his soul, it is still just as present eleven years later. The best part of my son is that which is eternal.  It doesn’t slip away with years, although I’ve been granted the privilege to see it grow and develop.  His joy, his compassion, his curiosity for life, his kindness and his creativity. Those things remain.They were formed from a substance more foundational than atoms. They are not bound (or marred) by the passage of time. The best part of my vibrant son, of my elderly grandmother, of you, and of me, won’t vanish with the years. It can’t be ended by a milestone birthday. Or even by a funeral.

Most of us have felt the twinge of (or gut-wrenching) sadness that accompanies the milestones commemorated in our photo albums. We sigh, and with a mix of melancholy, nostalgia, sadness and yearning, we chant the parental mantra, “Time Flies.”  Yet take heart.

Yes, time flies.

But I don’t want to stop it. I want to climb on its back and soak up every inch of the scenery. I want to drink in the laughter, the tears, the soccer games, the visits to the ER, the blues skies and the torrential rains that this world has to offer. For when the cosmic clock is finally grounded, I will climb off its back, grateful for the wild and wonderful (full-of-wonder) ride.

So enjoy your toddlers, your teenagers, your grandchildren. Don’t miss one bit of the ride due to fear or regret. For the day is coming when the tarnish of time will be removed  from us all. And underneath will be revealed the beauty, the creativity, the wonder, the whimsy, and the perfected love that was imprinted on our souls from the very foundations of the universe.


  1. Jaclyn

    This is perfect. You gave me a glimpse into what is perfect: the stitches of God’s handiwork. And an ever so timely glimpse, as my family embarks on a thrilling, though jarring, leg of this time flight. Thank you so much.

  2. Lindsey Murphy

    Beautifully put! Mine are 4, 2, and 3 months. It seems that other people are sadder about my children growing up than I am. I’ve tried to put words to this, but you did so much more wonderfully than I could have. I’m having too much fun on this wild ride to be sad about the things that have passed by. It’s also sweet to hear that the best things about my children don’t fade with time. Thank you for the reminder and encouragement!

  3. Lynn Walker

    Wonderfully said. A beautiful reminder as I think back on the years raising my four sons…an amazing privilege.

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