April 27 : The Miscarriage


We lost our first child on April 27.
I was so young I barely understood how my body worked.
I was still shy when my husband looked at me in the light.

Eleven months earlier the old man doctor
had noticed my innocence was still intact.

I sat up on his exam table,
grabbing at the corners of my paper gown, trying to cover myself
while he smacked me on the shoulder and chuckled.
“Good job,” he said, “I don’t see much of that anymore.”

“I’m getting married,” I said.
Then he tossed me a free pack of white pills
as if they were a trophy.

I stopped taking those pills in November.
We were twenty-two and twenty-four.

Earlier that spring I had bought a white cotton nightgown
with lace around the sleeves,
and years later, when it had turned ivory,
my husband told me how beautiful I had been.
We were both shy in the beginning, I guess.

But that first April 27 I was sitting on a toilet trying not to scream.
My arms were shaking and I couldn’t make them stop.
We were losing the baby.

Over the phone the doctor had told me, “Catch the tissue,”
but I knew it wasn’t just tissue, so I was shivering.
I knew what I was about to see.

The pains came, and each shudder threw my hands into convulsions.
I held that jar between my bare legs and I was
so scared about hitting the glass against the porcelain,
scared that I might break it open and cut her as she fell
or spill her little body down into the water.

If she were still alive, I wanted to catch her gently
and somehow let her know that I loved her.

I had been following her days like a plane coming over the sea.
She was grown enough to have ten fingers, ten toes,
eye muscles that clenched,
a mouth that sucked in,
kidneys that made urine.
She had made me a mother.

My husband held my shoulders upright in that tiny bathroom
and I wailed, no longer ashamed of my exposure,
because my body was no longer mine alone.
There were three of us.

Blood came, rivers and rivers of blood,
blood in the water, blood in my hands,
and that glass jar shook as if the whole earth
were being torn apart by its plates;
I could not keep it still.

Sounds came from me that I did not understand,
sounds from down in my throat.
Then there were strings of tissue falling. Pieces of womb,
Salt water in my eyes. I couldn’t see anything.
I tried to wipe it all away, but more came.

“Oh, God, my baby. Was she in there?”
The edges of the world began to grow black.
I was carried to the car.

I was cold, so cold, and there was so much blood.
At the hospital, my uterus was pulling into knots,
and they stretched me on a bed,

“I don’t know if I caught her,” I said, “I’m so sorry.”
“I don’t know if she is still alive.”
The man who strapped me down
put a cool, sharp line in my arm and the hallway faded.

“Did you see her?” I asked as the lights came on,
“Was she beautiful? Can I take her home? I need to bury her.”

But they had put her into the hospital waste.
Incinerated. A priest had supervised and said the necessary prayers.
That was all they could do, they said.

My husband came to the recovery room.
He pushed my hair to the side and kissed my forehead,
drove me home while I cried into a closed window, looking at nothing.
He carried me to the couch.

I couldn’t stand up for days without blood running out of me,
gravity pulling dust to dust back to the earth.

And then my milk came in.
I held two bags of crushed peas to my chest and wept,
waiting for my body to recognize
that the little sucking mouth I had sustained,
and the two little kidneys,
were gone.

Twenty years have passed, and I am old now.
Sometimes I trust no man at all, nor God,
but wait only for the next set of contractions,
and then lean deep-deep into a dream
that will numb me like a hospital drug.

But there is a time to be awake,
though your hands tremble holding the glass,
a time to revere what has been lost,
to grieve as you try to catch a few ounces of life and bless it,
kiss it, before it passes on.

Like you, I do not want to look at a world
where the loss of innocence is nothing at all.
That passage of a woman’s life is marked by blood for a reason.
The stained sheets are carried down to the celebration
because it is a sacred occurrence.

And I do not want to look at a world
where the holy union of a man and a woman
and their bliss knit work of child making
is baptized only by two full breasts crying out for a lost son
who was never considered more
than an inconvenience.

You tell me I don’t know, but I do know
what it is like to learn to walk again
after you have been full of child
then emptied of child,
what it is like to leave a concrete building
with nothing but your single body half of what it was.

I know what it is like to hold a lime in my palm
and whisper, “She would have been so small as that,
so large as that,”
and then to move forward into blank years of grief,
watching days on the calendar pass and thinking,
“If she had lived, she would be two today.
Today would be her birthday.”

Rebecca K. Reynolds is the editorial director of Oasis Family Media and Sky Turtle Press. She is the author of a text-faithful modern prose rendering of Edmund Spenser’s 1590’s epic poem, The Faerie Queene and of Courage, Dear Heart by Nav Press. Rebecca is a longtime member of the Rabbit Room, and she has spoken at Hutchmoot both in the US and the UK. She taught high school literature for seven years and has written lyrics for Ron Block of Alison Krauss, Union Station.


  1. Kathy

    Thank you for being so heart-piercingly vulnerable. I haven’t been moved to tears like that on months. A friend of mine had a miscarriage last year.

  2. gllenguy

    Dear Rebecca,

    Poetry is life condensed into words.
    Poetry is our human-ness elaborated and experienced.
    You have opened my world so much larger, so much deeper, so much more intimate, yet also so beautifully fragile and intricate.
    Thank you for being bold enough to write the searing reality that you have walked through.
    I can see more of life now…
    I can see tomorrow, even though today is rife with shadows…

  3. Cheryl Mundroff

    Fourty-six years ago today my firstborn was delivered. I realized that I was in the same room as a woman whose firstborn did not survive birth.  Oh I wanted to help, to say something, to pour a balm on her pain but I was young and had no idea what manner of pain it was. I’m sure now that just being in the same room with her multiplied her pain.

    Your words drew me into your pain, fears, emotions, love, loss, tearing flesh, rivulets of blood, and the infant that your arms could not ever enfold, but only hold in your palm for a moment. I will never know that pain as you did but I was allowed by your expressive memories to behold that agony in my minds eye. Perhaps I may be more comforting at least in my spirit toward those who are in that deep agony.

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